Why Some Relationships Will Never Transition Into Long Term Commitment

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Why Some Relationships Will Never Transition Into Long Term Commitment

Sometimes the people we choose as lovers are not meant to be long term, committed partners. It’s futile to keep beating yourself up if the transition never happens. Don’t blame yourself for the difficulty that may occur if you try and it’s not working out. What makes it even more confusing and difficult is that intense sexual and physical bonding with a lover triggers our emotional attachment system. After physical intimacy that feels amazing, connected and deeply satisfying, we can naturally desire to keep our lover close. This is a sign of your attachment system working to try to create a securely attached bond - which is totally normal!

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When It's More Than A Crush

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When It's More Than A Crush

It can start out as an innocent interest and attraction to someone. That quickening butterflies in the stomach feeling that flutters to your heart when you see them or they come to mind.

Then… for some of us, this feeling can crystalize (often without warning) into feelings that make the word “crush” feel too trivial and even childish. You wonder if this is what love really is or is supposed to feel like —

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Why Dating Is Harder When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style And What You Can do About It

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Why Dating Is Harder When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style And What You Can do About It

Is dating feeling like a rollercoaster of emotions and constant anxiety rather than about the fun of meeting new people? Do you go on dates, get really excited about the person you just met, only to be filled with doubt, preoccupied about getting a call back or if you will be rejected? Do you constantly wonder how you can keep someone’s interest or think about ways that you can change yourself to make yourself more attractive to someone to get their full attention? If so you most likely have an Anxious Attachment style.

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Are You in The Relationship Waiting Room?

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Are You in The Relationship Waiting Room?

Have you ever waited in a relationship, holding out, hoping the person you’re with will magically become more committed, affectionate, invested, decisive about your future?

Did it eventually happen?

If you’re in this predicament right now, it’s painful.

You have hope mixed with doubt. Your heart hurts. Your head hurts from overthinking everything.

Thinking….maybe a little more time will solve the problem, or if you just seem super patient, more forgiving, really cool and casual - they’ll finally be able to give you more.

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Your Brain On Limerence

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Your Brain On Limerence

Limerence can quietly and then not so quietly unseat you at your heart, your soul, until you have found yourself in mid-air, like a skier learning to do new tricks, but then unsure of which way is up, or down. It can be exhilarating. Terrifying. Mind-bending, confusing, transformative. It can last for months or years. You might be searching for why it’s happening to you, how long it will last, or how to get rid of it!

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