When It's More Than A Crush

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When It's More Than A Crush

It can start out as an innocent interest and attraction to someone. That quickening butterflies in the stomach feeling that flutters to your heart when you see them or they come to mind.

Then… for some of us, this feeling can crystalize (often without warning) into feelings that make the word “crush” feel too trivial and even childish. You wonder if this is what love really is or is supposed to feel like —

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Why Dating Is Harder When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style And What You Can do About It

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Why Dating Is Harder When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style And What You Can do About It

Is dating feeling like a rollercoaster of emotions and constant anxiety rather than about the fun of meeting new people? Do you go on dates, get really excited about the person you just met, only to be filled with doubt, preoccupied about getting a call back or if you will be rejected? Do you constantly wonder how you can keep someone’s interest or think about ways that you can change yourself to make yourself more attractive to someone to get their full attention? If so you most likely have an Anxious Attachment style.

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The Three Stages of Limerence

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The Three Stages of Limerence

Limerence is an intense emotional state and experience of being “in love.” It may start out as a “crush” or “infatuation” but can move into an intense all-consuming state either over time or very quickly. Unlike mutual love, limerence can be a distressing one-sided affair of the heart, body and soul. You may not realize what is happening until you are up late googling “obsessive love” because of intrusive, involuntary thoughts and fantasies involving your love interest.

… and find the term you never heard of called… Limerence.

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Strange Attractors - Why Unavailability in Relationships Fuels Desire

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Strange Attractors - Why Unavailability in Relationships Fuels Desire

In the story of our lives, obstacles can either stall us into submission and retreat, or give us the fuel to motivate towards our heart’s desire or goal. Who hasn’t ever gotten fired up about a challenge or taking the hard route? In the realm of romance, obstacles seem to act as the spark that ignites passion & desire - and this can be very appealing and exciting, even if it’s with someone who does not match up as a good or logical partner for our long term relationship goals…..

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