Letter to Past Self

Letter to Past Self

At a point in the not too distant future, you will long for and possibly grieve the moments and the times of your life that have now passed, even when it seemed they were too difficult, painful and challenging. They were a part of you and your process of growing.
Take time to appreciate all of the parts and the moments. Time moves quickly and soon what you have grown to know will change, and change again. You will lose many things by way of time and change even as you are working toward progress. In your younger years, time feels infinite and also the periods of misery and struggle over making big decisions can seem never ending. It’s when you are older with more experiences behind you that you will see all of the moments, what you did have (instead of the lack) and where you were trying to flee or change yourself or life rather than being very present in moments.

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Impermanence / The waking up

Impermanence / The waking up

It’s starting to happen: the waking up. It happens when you really, truly know how temporary everything in your life is. How life as you know it can change in a flash. When this happens, suddenly nothing can be taken for granted ever again. Magic is everywhere, and the path to joy and happiness is readily accessible.

The waking up to impermanence can happen on your own over time with wisdom and quiet reflection, a guide (such as a friend, lover or child or even a pet) may enter your life and wake you up, or a life altering event may happen that jolts this truth into your blood, bones and breath….

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Anxious Attachment Style and 'Playing it Cool' in Relationships

Anxious Attachment Style and 'Playing it Cool' in Relationships

There’s a difference between ‘playing it cool’, and behaving in a cool and collected manner in relationships. 

If you have an anxious/insecure/preoccupied attachment style (so many of us do!), you may have adopted an attitude of “play it cool” or aloofness in relationships, or defer to your partner’s wishes or desires first, which really comes out as minimizing or repressing your emotions or true desires and needs because of a fear of chasing away your partner or potential mate....

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