How To Go from "I Want Him Back" to Moving on

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How To Go from "I Want Him Back" to Moving on

You wish you could just make him see what he lost. You fantasize about getting him back, him calling or texting to reconnect. He’ll once again shower you with attention and you’ll go on the travels and adventures you always talked about. The thoughts are often uncontrollable now and you give in to them because it’s the only thing left to hold onto. All of the excitement comes rushing back as you imagine laying together on the beach, holding hands as you explore new cities together, talking and talking into the early hours of the morning. Even just imagining lazy days in bed with nowhere to go fills you with a kind of hope that gives you something that feels important, meaningful, something to live for?

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Why Some Relationships Will Never Transition Into Long Term Commitment

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Why Some Relationships Will Never Transition Into Long Term Commitment

Sometimes the people we choose as lovers are not meant to be long term, committed partners. It’s futile to keep beating yourself up if the transition never happens. Don’t blame yourself for the difficulty that may occur if you try and it’s not working out. What makes it even more confusing and difficult is that intense sexual and physical bonding with a lover triggers our emotional attachment system. After physical intimacy that feels amazing, connected and deeply satisfying, we can naturally desire to keep our lover close. This is a sign of your attachment system working to try to create a securely attached bond - which is totally normal!

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A Personal Limerence Journal Entry

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A Personal Limerence Journal Entry

Part of the pain of limerence is feeling alone and stuck in a state of shame. It can feel like you’re totally alone. To that end, I want to share some of my own experience as I was reflecting on my mid-point with limerence when I was in a hope/despair cycle with physical symptoms as well as mental and emotional anguish and couldn’t rid myself of the intrusive thoughts and fantasies:

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Limerence: A Love Story Like No Other

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Limerence: A Love Story Like No Other

You are convinced you’ve finally found the missing piece. This is what love is supposed to feel like! Or so the story goes.

You may not know it, but you’ve been brewing a love story. You’ve been quietly cataloging all of the things you find attractive and magnetic in others, what feels like “home” and how you want to love and be loved. Your brain has been clocking the qualities of parents, caregivers, those close to you since you were very young.

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Signs you May Have Hidden Grief

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Signs you May Have Hidden Grief

When we think of Grief, we often think of having to mourn a person or death. But we also grieve for major disappointments in life, setbacks or the shattering of long-held life dreams or dreams of love relationships. You may feel like you have to move on quickly from emotional pain, find ways of distracting yourself or figure it out on your own. You may stuff the feelings down in order to carry on, but this only postpones the pain. Whatever you resist will persist.

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