Weekly bites on love, romance, limerence, breaking up and keeping it all together.
It’s time. You’ve beaten yourself up long enough. Your fault, their fault, someone is always to blame. What if there was a kinder, gentler way to get to a place of closure on a tough relationship ending?
Read MoreThere is nothing wrong with the desire to enhance your appearance, especially if it has a positive impact on your confidence. But for many women, all of the financial and emotional investment into changing your outward appearance doesn’t get to the root of how you want to feel and project to others: feeling sexy, vibrant, and confident, from inside.
Trying to elicit change from the outside in is often a futile project that leads to a self-criticism loop and doesn’t make a dent in a deeper sense of self-acceptance.
Read MoreWhen we think of Grief, we often think of having to mourn a person or death. But we also grieve for major disappointments in life, setbacks or the shattering of long-held life dreams or dreams of love relationships. You may feel like you have to move on quickly from emotional pain, find ways of distracting yourself or figure it out on your own. You may stuff the feelings down in order to carry on, but this only postpones the pain. Whatever you resist will persist.
Read MoreEach of us has a strategy for avoiding certain feelings we don’t like to feel or don’t know how to deal with. For example:
—Do you ever binge eat or drink when you feel depressed, agitated, frustrated, hopeless or angry -and then feel guilty or horrible morning after morning?
—Maybe you shop impulsively outside your budget or engage in casual sexual relationships to try to numb the pain of a breakup but just put yourself into increasing debt or feel empty and wrecked after attaching to someone unavailable?
—Do you ever sit on the couch mindlessly binge-watching shows or spend hours on social media instead of researching new career sor job alternatives to the one you hate, just to avoid the fear and overwhelm?
When we do this, we can develop habits that are not life-serving and can keep us STUCK, rather than growing and flourishing.
Read MoreHow often we find ourselves in this conundrum: living in the moment, for what is appearing now, in temporary satisfaction, pleasure and pain relief even if the best thing for us in the long term may not be visible quite yet. It's so hard to hold out for more when the impulse is to satisfy desires NOW.
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