April 29, 2024

Healing The Heartbreak Of Limerence

April 29, 2024/ Stephanie Lazzara

In the aftermath of limerence, there is the void — the empty space where you are caught in the in between of the fantasy (of who you thought or imagined the person to be or your relationship) and the reality. You will find yourself grieving not only the fantasy parts of the limerence and your LO (love object), but all of the POSSIBILITIES and the HOPE.

You may go through all of the stages of grief and loss

August 01, 2023

Food For Love: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation

August 01, 2023/ Stephanie Lazzara

All love stories start out with the big three: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation.

In reciprocated, mutualing-falling-in-love love stories, the Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation trifecta create the exciting beginning stage or “honeymoon” phase. But what if there are obstacles? What if the one you love isn’t available, or worse, you’re not sure if they feel the same way? Falling in love is a natural progression and a natural state of being, but….

Love doesn’t really seem to care if you’re already married or committed…Or if the one you love is. Or if they give you mixed signals….

July 20, 2023

A Personal Limerence Journal Entry

July 20, 2023/ Stephanie Lazzara

Part of the pain of limerence is feeling alone and stuck in a state of shame. It can feel like you’re totally alone. To that end, I want to share some of my own experience as I was reflecting on my mid-point with limerence when I was in a hope/despair cycle with physical symptoms as well as mental and emotional anguish and couldn’t rid myself of the intrusive thoughts and fantasies:

May 27, 2023

The Most Misunderstood Form of Love: Limerence

May 27, 2023/ Stephanie Lazzara

I always knew I fell in love hard, but it wasn’t until limerence hit me that I knew something was different. When I started my quest to figure out what was happening to me, I could barely find any information at first. Obsessive love kept popping up on web searches, but there was a creepy vibe to that term that just seemed off - with the feeling of an inevitable diagnosis of crazy. I knew I wasn’t crazy, but I was definitely crazy in love… With the wrong person, at the wrong time. Who may or may not have felt the same way. Or couldn’t….The roller coaster ride of limerence is intoxicating, overwhelming and all consuming.

May 12, 2023

Limerence: A Love Story Like No Other

May 12, 2023/ Stephanie Lazzara

You are convinced you’ve finally found the missing piece. This is what love is supposed to feel like! Or so the story goes.

You may not know it, but you’ve been brewing a love story. You’ve been quietly cataloging all of the things you find attractive and magnetic in others, what feels like “home” and how you want to love and be loved. Your brain has been clocking the qualities of parents, caregivers, those close to you since you were very young.