This is an eight week coaching program to gain understanding, clarity and relief when you are ready to end the struggle with the confusing and painful relationship pattern where you are attracted to partners who are emotionally unavailable or avoidantly attached.

Does this sound familiar?

  • Hot and cold or pursue/withdraw dynamics

  • You’re the one putting in more care and energy into the connection

  • Never feeling secure where you stand with them

  • Feeling anxious and on edge but also dependent on any crumbs of attention

  • Feeling starved for love and that you need to “perform” or need to keep trying harder, which wrecks your self-esteem over time

  • Constantly feeling like you are accepting less than you know you need but keep adjusting even though you are miserable.

This short, eight week program will help you learn the important first steps so that you can move on from stuck, broken and hanging on to crumbs of love or contact so that you can finally let go and get back your personal power.

The Stages Being in a Relationship with Someone Who is Emotionally Unavailable

Phase One: The relationship most likely started off fast and exciting, feeling connected and euphoric and with your partner trying to show you sure signs of their interest and capacity for a committed relationship. You may have talk about a future together. There is emotional and physical intimacy and vulnerability. Just as you begin to relax into the relationship….

Phase Two: After you have been “won” over and your partner is aware that your love is secure, they begin to shift tone and attention towards you. They may not disappear completely, but you are aware that there is a clear change. Though you have done nothing different other than express interest and attention that was at one time received and reciprocated, romantic and loving attention from them may be sporadic, inconsistent or like a switch was flipped. You may feel clingy and needy where you were once calm and independent. You may be caught in this pattern for weeks, months or years and the cycle is very damaging to your confidence and self esteem.

Phase Three: You realize that it’s too painful to go on but breaking it off also feels terrible. Even if your head is screaming at you to walk away, you can’t seem to do it. They seem to go away, then come back. This pattern triggers an old, deep wound inside of you. The intermittent hot/cold connecting and disconnecting from them leaves you stuck because you hold on to the relief you feel when there is attention and you feel the potential and hope again. It may begin to feel similar to an addiction. Your nervous system is not ready for the loss and your emotional system has learned to rely on their contact in order to feel safe and calm, even if it is inconsistent. They may ghost you for a time, then come back or do a slow fade out. You hang on to any crumbs of attention or hope for things to turn around. All you want is to go back to the potential and the effort you felt from them in the beginning. You’re in disbelief this is happening and keep holding out to see if the person who showed up at the beginning magically reappears. You’re in the battleground with someone who is emotionally unavailable. You’re confused, bruised and feeling broken.

You probably have so many unanswered questions, are fed up with the confusion, mixed signals and ambiguity that hooks you back in time after time. If you’re here, you’ve most likely reached your limit with the internal struggle and pain and you’re ready to take the next step and reach out for support in order to open a new chapter in your life and stop this pattern for good!

If this is you, it’s time to schedule your Break Your Attraction to Emotional Unavailability Coaching Discovery Session:

  • You know you want to move on but just can’t seem to let go or get any closure from a certain person or ex, or are in an endless push/pull cycle with your emotionally available (or avoidant) partner.

  • You feel like this pain will never end and your day-to-day life, work and other relationships are suffering.

  • You’re tired of being in your head, choosing people who can’t fully love you, second guessing and feeling critical of yourself and wondering if there is something wrong with you (there isn’t).

  • You’re ready to rebuild your self esteem, self worth and confidence, and grow in new and unexpected ways.

  • You’ve heard about Attachment Styles (or are curious about them) and wonder if it may be playing a part in your dynamic with your partner or attraction to unavailable people (ie. the Anxious/Avoidant dance).

  • You’re curious about the 8 week coaching program, but want to see how coaching feels and works before committing to a longer program.

You’ll feel lighter and more clear about your next steps…in just 50 minutes.

You will learn:

  • Why you can’t seem to make a decision about staying in contact or going no contact and what to do about it

  • The first step of moving on and managing the grief feelings; how to cope with what you lost

  • A way to immediately boost your energy and confidence so you don’t feel weighed down or exhausted by emotional turmoil and anxiety…

  • Clues to look out for in potential dating partners and ways in which you are making choices with partners that may be contributing to a cycle of attracting partners who are emotionally unavailable, have a deep fear of commitment or who can’t be IN OR OUT of a relationship.

What is it worth to you to feel better and finally work with a professional coach who also knows the pain of being attracted to emotionally unavailable partners and the way through? Let’s do this!

Break Your Attraction to Emotional Unavailability Coaching: $80 USD - Discovery Session fee (50 minute session). After the discovery session, you can decide if you would like to continue with the full program. (Full Program discounts and payment plans are available.)