The Most Misunderstood Form of Love: Limerence

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The Most Misunderstood Form of Love: Limerence

I always knew I fell in love hard, but it wasn’t until limerence hit me that I knew something was different. When I started my quest to figure out what was happening to me, I could barely find any information at first. Obsessive love kept popping up on web searches, but there was a creepy vibe to that term that just seemed off - with the feeling of an inevitable diagnosis of crazy. I knew I wasn’t crazy, but I was definitely crazy in love… With the wrong person, at the wrong time. Who may or may not have felt the same way. Or couldn’t….The roller coaster ride of limerence is intoxicating, overwhelming and all consuming.

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Does Your Relationship Have Asymmetrical Commitment?

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Does Your Relationship Have Asymmetrical Commitment?

When you’re in a relationship with significantly differing commitment levels, the person putting in more is always bound to suffer. The person who commits more, gives more and is willing to make more sacrifices for the other person or for the relationship runs the risk of getting burned because over time you put in more and more emotional energy and emotional investment. Being in a state of ambiguity about a relationship status and your partner’s commitment level can allow asymmetrical commitment to hide out for months and years.

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Help - I've Hit ‘A Dark Night Of the Soul’ In My Relationship

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Help - I've Hit ‘A Dark Night Of the Soul’ In My Relationship

A Dark Night of the Soul in a relationship can derail you. It can build up quietly over months or years or jolt you awake suddenly. All at once, you may question your entire foundation. The questions of Staying or Leaving become involuntary thoughts you bounce between, day and night, then night into day that go up and down with your emotions and moods.

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Your Brain On Limerence

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Your Brain On Limerence

Limerence can quietly and then not so quietly unseat you at your heart, your soul, until you have found yourself in mid-air, like a skier learning to do new tricks, but then unsure of which way is up, or down. It can be exhilarating. Terrifying. Mind-bending, confusing, transformative. It can last for months or years. You might be searching for why it’s happening to you, how long it will last, or how to get rid of it!

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4 Mindfulness Skills For Getting Through Uncertainty

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4 Mindfulness Skills For Getting Through Uncertainty

Living with the stress of prolonged uncertainty takes a toll on physical and mental well-being. Even if it’s not pandemic-level uncertainty, every day we bump up against low-grade uncertainties that can amp-up anxiety if we don’t build up our coping-skills toolbox.

To get through uncertain times, we often adopt less effective skills and strategies to cope that can be unhealthy. These often self-sabotaging coping skills can side-track us from our goals and can damage our most important relationships —and out health and wellbeing….

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