March 25, 2023

Does Your Relationship Have Asymmetrical Commitment?

March 25, 2023/ Stephanie Lazzara

When you’re in a relationship with significantly differing commitment levels, the person putting in more is always bound to suffer. The person who commits more, gives more and is willing to make more sacrifices for the other person or for the relationship runs the risk of getting burned because over time you put in more and more emotional energy and emotional investment. Being in a state of ambiguity about a relationship status and your partner’s commitment level can allow asymmetrical commitment to hide out for months and years.

March 01, 2022

Are You in The Relationship Waiting Room?

March 01, 2022/ Stephanie Lazzara

Have you ever waited in a relationship, holding out, hoping the person you’re with will magically become more committed, affectionate, invested, decisive about your future?

Did it eventually happen?

If you’re in this predicament right now, it’s painful.

You have hope mixed with doubt. Your heart hurts. Your head hurts from overthinking everything.

Thinking….maybe a little more time will solve the problem, or if you just seem super patient, more forgiving, really cool and casual - they’ll finally be able to give you more.

August 04, 2021

A Hidden Reason You're Drawn to Unavailable Relationships and Impossible Loves

August 04, 2021/ Stephanie Lazzara

I define an unavailable romantic relationship as one that is severely limited in three important ways.

One, there is emotional unavailability involved (a fear of getting close and using distancing techniques to handle your own emotions or the emotions of others) in one or both partners.

Two, there are unbalanced desires for commitment, intimacy, and emotional investment between partners….