Strange Attractors - Why Unavailability in Relationships Fuels Desire

Strange Attractors - Why Unavailability in Relationships Fuels Desire

In the story of our lives, obstacles can either stall us into submission and retreat, or give us the fuel to motivate towards our heart’s desire or goal. Who hasn’t ever gotten fired up about a challenge or taking the hard route? In the realm of romance, obstacles seem to act as the spark that ignites passion & desire - and this can be very appealing and exciting, even if it’s with someone who does not match up as a good or logical partner for our long term relationship goals…..

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A Hidden Reason You're Drawn to Unavailable Relationships and Impossible Loves

A Hidden Reason You're Drawn to Unavailable Relationships and Impossible Loves

I define an unavailable romantic relationship as one that is severely limited in three important ways.

One, there is emotional unavailability involved (a fear of getting close and using distancing techniques to handle your own emotions or the emotions of others) in one or both partners.

Two, there are unbalanced desires for commitment, intimacy, and emotional investment between partners….


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