Does Your Relationship Have Asymmetrical Commitment?

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Does Your Relationship Have Asymmetrical Commitment?

When you’re in a relationship with significantly differing commitment levels, the person putting in more is always bound to suffer. The person who commits more, gives more and is willing to make more sacrifices for the other person or for the relationship runs the risk of getting burned because over time you put in more and more emotional energy and emotional investment. Being in a state of ambiguity about a relationship status and your partner’s commitment level can allow asymmetrical commitment to hide out for months and years.

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Help - I've Hit ‘A Dark Night Of the Soul’ In My Relationship

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Help - I've Hit ‘A Dark Night Of the Soul’ In My Relationship

A Dark Night of the Soul in a relationship can derail you. It can build up quietly over months or years or jolt you awake suddenly. All at once, you may question your entire foundation. The questions of Staying or Leaving become involuntary thoughts you bounce between, day and night, then night into day that go up and down with your emotions and moods.

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Why Dating Is Harder When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style And What You Can do About It

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Why Dating Is Harder When You Have An Anxious Attachment Style And What You Can do About It

Is dating feeling like a rollercoaster of emotions and constant anxiety rather than about the fun of meeting new people? Do you go on dates, get really excited about the person you just met, only to be filled with doubt, preoccupied about getting a call back or if you will be rejected? Do you constantly wonder how you can keep someone’s interest or think about ways that you can change yourself to make yourself more attractive to someone to get their full attention? If so you most likely have an Anxious Attachment style.

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Are You in The Relationship Waiting Room?

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Are You in The Relationship Waiting Room?

Have you ever waited in a relationship, holding out, hoping the person you’re with will magically become more committed, affectionate, invested, decisive about your future?

Did it eventually happen?

If you’re in this predicament right now, it’s painful.

You have hope mixed with doubt. Your heart hurts. Your head hurts from overthinking everything.

Thinking….maybe a little more time will solve the problem, or if you just seem super patient, more forgiving, really cool and casual - they’ll finally be able to give you more.

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Your Brain On Limerence

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Your Brain On Limerence

Limerence can quietly and then not so quietly unseat you at your heart, your soul, until you have found yourself in mid-air, like a skier learning to do new tricks, but then unsure of which way is up, or down. It can be exhilarating. Terrifying. Mind-bending, confusing, transformative. It can last for months or years. You might be searching for why it’s happening to you, how long it will last, or how to get rid of it!

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