Food For Love: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation

All love stories start out with the big three: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation.

In reciprocated, mutualing-falling-in-love love stories, the Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation trifecta create the exciting beginning stage or “honeymoon” phase of the relationship that paves the way for mutual intimacy, sexual and emotional bonding. All of the feel-good times then lead to bonded “companionate love.”

But what if there are obstacles? What if the one you love isn’t available, or worse, you’re not sure if they feel the same way? Falling in love is a natural progression and a natural state of being, but….

Love doesn’t really seem to care if you’re already married or committed…

Or if the one you love is.

Or if they give you mixed signals.

The heart wants what it wants.

And… Obstacles fuel DESIRE & LONGING!

If this happens, you can stay stuck in the Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation phase - Which is Limerence. You are basically stuck in the phase of “Being in Love.”

While being ‘in love’ in and of itself is not a horrible thing ~ think of all of the novels, pieces of music composed and timeless poetry written during this state of incurable longing ~ it can be downright miserable to be in a prolonged state of Limerence where you can’t find relief from the intrusive, cycling thoughts about the person you want to be with, only to be fed breadcrumbs of hope every once in a while and your fantasies to soothe you.

It’s so hard to let go.

You think, do I even want to?

What’s on the other side of this?

What if I never feel this passionately again?

Where do I go from here?

Will I ever feel happy again?

How do I MOVE ON?

If these questions are starting to circulate along with the feelings of Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation that just won’t seem to let go, there is a different hope in sight.

I am one of the very few certified coaches worldwide who focuses on Healing Limerence. I’ve developed a coaching program specifically designed to help others through limerence based on the tools and strategies that helped me get through my own personal limerence experience. 

Yes, I’m on the other side, and you can be, too! 

If you are exhausted and at the end of the line with limerence, a different kind of hope is in sight. I work with clients one-to-one to help heal from the pain of limerence and find a new way through.

Schedule a discounted sample session on my calendar by clicking the link below.

Xo Coach Steph