April 30, 2020

Living in the Ambiguity and Uncertainty of Life

April 30, 2020/ Stephanie Lazzara

“The Buddha called impermanence one of the three distinguishing marks of our existence, an incontrovertible fact of life. But it’s something we resist pretty strongly. We think if we did this or didn’t do that, somehow we could achieve a secure, dependable, controllable life. How disappointed we are when things don’t work out quite the way we planned.”

December 26, 2019

The Path of Transformation and Accepting your Unique Gifts

December 26, 2019/ Stephanie Lazzara

Is there something more? You followed the path you thought you should take, the 'right' way, perhaps what was expected of you up to this point in your life. You followed your head, not your heart. You took the safe route or, not fully recognizing your gifts, took any route.

February 20, 2019

The Art of Getting Unstuck

February 20, 2019/ Stephanie Lazzara

Being STUCK is exhausting. And it can go on for years. A good friend of mine once said to me “this is your specialty” (getting stuck) and to her I responded, I think I just take a really long time to come to decisions….

August 06, 2018

Impermanence / The waking up

August 06, 2018/ Stephanie Lazzara

It’s starting to happen: the waking up. It happens when you really, truly know how temporary everything in your life is. How life as you know it can change in a flash. When this happens, suddenly nothing can be taken for granted ever again. Magic is everywhere, and the path to joy and happiness is readily accessible.

The waking up to impermanence can happen on your own over time with wisdom and quiet reflection, a guide (such as a friend, lover or child or even a pet) may enter your life and wake you up, or a life altering event may happen that jolts this truth into your blood, bones and breath….

January 28, 2018

Anxious Attachment Style and 'Playing it Cool' in Relationships

January 28, 2018/ Stephanie Lazzara

There’s a difference between ‘playing it cool’, and behaving in a cool and collected manner in relationships.

If you have an anxious/insecure/preoccupied attachment style (so many of us do!), you may have adopted an attitude of “play it cool” or aloofness in relationships, or defer to your partner’s wishes or desires first, which really comes out as minimizing or repressing your emotions or true desires and needs because of a fear of chasing away your partner or potential mate....